Why to Avoid Wedding Trends
It may be tempting to copy the latest wedding trend. As someone who lives for wedding design, fashion, and home decor, I get it. Trends are enticing. It’s easy to get sucked into the beauty of it all. After you see image after image of weddings featuring a floral arch, you start thinking “Hey, maybe we need a floral arch…” Even if you absolutely never wanted one. Then you start reading about all these unity trends for ceremonies and pretty soon you’re standing in an aisle at your local craft store looking at different colors sand wondering how you got there.
Anytime I see posts online or in wedding magazines about the “top wedding trends”, I proceed with caution and while I can’t make you, I do encourage you to do the same. There are two big reasons I recommend avoiding wedding trends:
They can cause additional expense
They lack connection/meaning
Wedding trends can cause an extra expense
A big downside of following a wedding trend is expense. Think about it. If everyone getting married wants a photo booth at their wedding and there are only so many photo booth rentals available, you end up in a bit of a supply and demand situation. Hang with me now, I promise I would get too far into economic trends. Basically, it comes down to this: higher demand leads to a limited supply, which in turn leads to higher prices.
Still not getting it? Allow me to take you back to the 2011 royal wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton. Bridal gowns around this time were mostly strapless. Trust me, I know, I got married in 2010 when all you could find were strapless gowns. Then comes the ever stunning Kate Middleton to alter the course of wedding dress design forever. Her v-neck, lace and satin long sleeve masterpiece designed by Sarah Burton (creative director of Alexander McQueen), captured us all. Once the royal wedding took place on April 29, 2011, it was all v-necklines and long sleeve lace gowns. Co-owner of the infamous “Say Yes to the Dress” Kelinfelds bridal salon in New York City, Mara Urshel, noticed a change in wedding dress requests following the royal wedding. Urshel reported a high demand for long sleeve gowns after the royal wedding to mimic the elegant gown worn by Middleton. This high demand was not something the industry was prepared for necessarily, leading to a supply and demand issue for long sleeve wedding gowns.
Now maybe a long sleeve gown is your thing. If that’s the case, go for it. Just be mindful that it might cost you a bit extra to be “on trend” with every aspect of your wedding. If you insist on going the trendy wedding route, try being choosy with which trends you follow. This way you can help keep costs down.
For me, this next reason is even more important than money (I know, hard to believe). Staying on trend is expensive, but I think the highest cost is ending up with a wedding that feels nothing like you or your partner.
Wedding trends lack connection/meaning
Imagine walking into your reception, hand in hand with your new spouse, high on the happiness of being newly married. You enter the venue and hear laughter, music, and joyful chaos. You look around to take it all in, then you look at your partner, and back to the venue, only to realize neither one of you is represented anywhere. Sure it’s beautiful and instagram-able, but it isn’t you and it isn’t your partner. It’s almost like you walked into a styled shoot for some online wedding magazine.
Weddings can be stunning and still feel like you and your partner. You can infuse your personality into your wedding in ways both big or small…or both! Let me share some examples to get your wedding design inspiration flowing.
One of my former online clients I did a design package for really loved cats. When we were working together to create a design plan, I came up with an idea to incorporate wine glass charms that featured cats. She LOVED this idea. It was a fun way to incorporate her love for cats, while also doubling as a wedding favor for their guests.
Side note - if I were to design Taylor Swift’s wedding, there would definitely be a lot of cat moments throughout. Yes, these are the kinds of things I think about on a regular basis. Anyways, moving on…
For my own wedding, it was yellow butterflies. My grandma passed away before I got married. Before she passed, she told us she was going to come back as a yellow butterfly. It’s become a thing within our family that every time we see a yellow butterfly pass by we smile and say “Hi grandma!”. To honor her memory, my spouse and I infused yellow butterflies throughout our wedding. They were in my bouquet, on the wedding arch, and on the seating chart (which also doubled as the favors).
My wedding bouquet - full of yellow butterflies
Our wedding seating chart/part favors
When I styled my little sister’s wedding, I incorporated hops plants on their wedding arch. This might seem random, but it was very intentional. Since we were kids, my dad has brewed his own beer and when we moved to Oregon, he started growing his own hops. The hops on the arbor were taken from my parent’s yard. It was a fun nod to our dad to include hops in their wedding decor.
Me - decorating the wedding arbor with hops for my younger sister’s wedding
Wedding arbor decorated with hops
Hops wedding arbor
Your wedding is a time to celebrate who you are as individuals and who you are as a couple. I encourage you to use this moment in time to express yourselves and share your story, your personality, your love, with all of those who have gathered to celebrate you. Feeling connected to your wedding design is important. You don’t want to walk into your wedding and feel like you don’t belong at your own celebration. Connection is key!
I promise adding your different personalities and stories to your wedding is not as intimidating as it sounds. There are all kinds of simple ways to do this and I’ve included a list below to help inspire you both.
As you continue on your wedding design journey, be sure to trend check yourself. Are you getting sucked into something because “everyone is doing it” or does it really feel like you and your partner? Find a trend your absolutely LOVE, go for it, just make sure you’re choosing it because it’s “you” not because Instagram brainwashed you into thinking you had to have this exact chocolate fountain at your dessert table in order to experience wedded bliss.
Easy places to infuse your wedding your story + personality:
Create a custom cocktail and name it after a special place or experience you’ve shared as a couple
Have custom napkins created (seriously, it’s not as pricey as it sounds) and feature an image of your shared pet or the place you met
Honor loved ones past via a special table with photos of them (gift table or behind the last row of ceremony chairs are good locations) or add their photos to the bouquet
Instead of a wedding favor, make a donation to a charity that means a lot to you and your partner
“They would be here today, if heaven wasn’t so far away.”
Displaying photos are simple way to honor loved ones passed on your wedding day. Styled by yours truly.
My dad’s parents on their wedding day
Happy designing!
~Amanda Jean
